Yup, you heard it right! At a time when everyone asks you to win I am saying, if and when you happen lose, bow out with grace.
Surprised?
We can’t always win, well we can, but probably won’t across all spheres of life. Like it or not it’s true.
Let’s take sport, when a team or individual is battering the opponent, the battered at times gets in to a verbal duel, or stiff and rude body language.
During a heated argument, between father and son, husband & wife or between girlfriend and boyfriend, I’ve often seen one party take off on a tangent and just go crazy, despite knowing they are wrong. And this lingers forward in to the future!
A lot of times I’ve seen relationships end on bitter notes, and the last words exchanged are not pleasant, to say the least. One party has more grief than the other and often ends up saying nasty things, some they don’t even mean. Actually I’ve seen a lot of this with my friends!! Ha !
People start to get hysterical when losing because their ego gets hurt and comes in to play. You can say it’s their natural defense mechanism to save face. But what they end up doing is to demean all great moments cherished in the past, and probably end any possibilities of future reconciliations.
Most people just remember the ‘bitter parting’ and hold it close to their heart and mind, because that’s the last ‘experience’ they had! So much for positive energy – read energy & karma.
What people don’t realize is that there are times that you need to keep your ego aside and just try and be large hearted. This will at least make the parting amicable, peaceful, easy and maybe leave room for future reconciliation. But above all – it will and should keep a level of respect intact. Respect is important, don’t let your ‘situational loss’ take away respect.
I said, stay calm, accept reality – keep the ego aside.
When you know you are wrong and aren’t really ‘wining’, there is nothing wrong in losing gracefully.
