I’ve had this chat with many friends before, and so I thought I’d write about it.
The problem with people is that they believe they can only show affection to someone who is something to them and as long as they can lay claim to them. Example: Can only love my boyfriend as long as he is my boyfriend. Can help someone if he is someone to me?
Why can’t you love someone for who they are and celebrate that, independent of how they feel towards you or what they are to you?
You can’t because you are looking to lay claim! Try and get rid of your ego and perceived identity and look deep in to the other person, you will see human values that are similar to yours. And you’ll realize there is no difference between you and him.
Then you will see barriers collapse. Your selflessness will bring out your true self, suddenly you are accessible to everyone and everyone sees you. More importantly you see everyone for who they are and not what they are only to you. Being selfless lets’ you be YOU, and really just YOU.
Now everything will look beautiful, because you are not looking to lay claim at or on anything. Therefore nothing and everything is wonderful. Love will pour and ooze out of everything.
You, as an individual have to feel complete on your own to experience bliss and stay selfless. You don’t need anyone or any object to come and complete you. I’ll tell you why.
An incomplete person, who feels he isn’t complete and who is looking to be complete, will never be able to give his best in what he is looking for, be it love, relationship, work or just trying to lay a claim, and that’s why he is trying to lay a claim on to someone or something. To feel complete, which is the starting point of selfishness.
Be in love with yourself, and the world will seem a lovable place, you will be loved, everyone will run after you with joy, because they can sense you love selflessly, and don’t want or seek anything from them, except to appreciate them, and that your emotion and intentions are pure.
The day you learn to be successful in a relationship is the day you ascend, and come out of all selfish relationships and transcend the boundaries of ‘claim’. That is when you are in sync with the true spirit of love.
So, shed your selfishness to be yourself.
